If I wasn’t able to spend Fathers Day with my dad he would say that’s okay, because “Everyday is Fathers Day” He was right. Not a day goes by that I don’t miss and think of him. I love you daddy.

Back when I was a child, before life removed all the innocence
My father would lift me high and dance with my mother and me and then
Spin me around ‘til I fell asleep
Then up the stairs he would carry me
And I knew for sure I was loved
If I could get another chance, another walk, another dance with him
I’d play a song that would never, ever end
How I’d love, love, love
To dance with my father again ~ Luther Vandros click to hear Luther sing this beautiful song.

I found this prose posted all over Face Book….Father’s Day is approaching. Yellow roses grow in heaven, Lord pick a bunch for me. Place them in my Dad’s arms and tell him they’re from me. Tell him that I love and miss him. When he turns to smile place a kiss upon his cheek & hold him for awhile, because remembering him is easy, I do it every day. There’s an ache ………in my heart that will never go away…

My friend David is a dad and like mine he has three girls. Lucky guy?! My dad thought so and you will see so does David.

What It Means To Be a Father by David Kugelmas

“Dad, your guiding hand on my shoulder will remain with me forever.” ~Author Unknown

Being a father is more than a title; in fact it is far more than a short description. From the moment one becomes a father, there is a certain feeling, instinct and identity that comes with being one.

My earliest memories are of my 1st daughter, Samantha, being born. When it was time for her birth I told Dr. James “I’m going to cut the cord!” to which he replied “of course, David”. When it became that time to cut the cord, I took it in stride. Then, it was my turn to hold Samantha for the first time and I remember crying at the beauty of this little baby in my hands. The smile on my face could have stretched an entire city block. It was quite a magical moment and at that magical moment nothing else mattered.

When Brittany (my 2nd) was born, although it was still very special, she needed some medical attention, so it was a little less of a happy moment. She had trauma in her airway and they needed to keep her in the hospital about a week longer. At first this was difficult, but I stood strong and dealt with it. Every night after work I would go to the hospital. The time finally came for her to come home. But by the end of the year she was in the hospital once again.

This is where being a father means being strong and sensitive at the same time. Pulling from strength to get through the rough patches, because life is not always a smooth operation and with children there are so many more things to consider. As if that was not enough drama in my life, my 1st marriage was also not a happy one and I had been carrying that around with me as well.

A truly rich man is one whose children run into his arms when his hands are empty. ~Author Unknown

 Nothing is perfect, but we try to make the best of what we have – so I thought. It came to a point where I could no longer continue living the way I was. I had a hard time thinking about how dissolving a marriage would affect the children. Finally, I came to a decision that either way; it would not be easy. Their mother did not help this at all, but that is not what my story is about!

“Any man can be a father. It takes someone special to be a dad.” ~Author Unknown

After the dust settled, I was back to living in the city. I got re-married and my 2nd wife wanted a child. After my 1st marriage dissolved, the relationship I had with my children was very strained. Having another child was fine with me, I love children and thought maybe having another beautiful baby would be good thing.

Well, the day my Chloe was born, it was truly exciting and that special feeling washed over me once again. I was all smiles and cut the cord (of course) after she was born. The feeling I had will never ever leave me, it is really not describable unless one has been there themselves. Holding her in my arms and looking down at her with so much love.

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The bond that fathers form with their daughters is a lifetime one, I don’t know if this is the same with boys because I don’t have any!

“Fatherhood is pretending the present you love most is soap-on-a-rope.” ~Bill Cosby

There are so many experiences I have been through with my daughters and they are not replaceable. I try my best to be there for every concert, recital, event, etc… I do not want to miss a thing. Even though I have to split my time up with my kids, I love them beyond the grasp of description and always will. Being a father has so many rewards. I could not ever fathom comparing it to anything else.

Old as she was, she still missed her daddy sometimes. ~Gloria Naylor

 

David has his own Blog, filled with Inspiration and Inspirational quotes YouTalkToMuchandNeverShutUp

You can also follow David on Twitter Kugey for up to date Inspiration!

 

 

Happy Fathers Day! 

Susan Sommers is a Pilates Instructor to Baby Boomers in New York City 10023